>Anybody know any good cutesy Yaoi manga/anime?
I never watched it but I remember No. 6 being very popular when it came out. Judging by some reviews though, the story is not very well executed. The main characters only ever kiss twice
; I'm supposing that's what you meant by cutesy.
The first yaoi anime (iirc) is Kaze to Ki no Uta (1 OVA) which came out in the 80s. I don't know how softcore it is though, I never watched it either, but the style looks very nice. It's adapted from a manga.
Another anime that's very softcore (only 1 kiss)
is the DRAMAtical Murder adaptation. I did watch the anime but I never read the VN (which, being a Nitro+CHiRAL title, has quite harcore stuff in it). According to people who did, the anime is a step-up from the source material in terms of plot execution. I really liked it, nice aesthetics, absolutely awesome soundtrack, hilarious rushed 3rd episode that made the studio apologize and re-release a fixed version. Apparently there's a bonus episode which is a compilation of the bad endings in anime form, but I've just found out about that so I can't give an opinion.
Likewise, there's a Togainu no Chi series but it's the opposite of DMMD (according to those who read the VN), it's apparently so bad that fans deny its existence.
I prefer to use the term BL in general, and Yaoi sometimes. "Shonen ai" has a different meaning in Japan (romance between underage boys) and in the West (any form of yaoi that doesn't have sex), so I don't tend to use that term. Because of this, I get confused sometimes. I'd recommend some yaoi that's more explicit than what I've already talked about, but I don't know if anyone's interested.