>you don't have to tell her you are a virgin beforehand
I guess that's true.
>confidence often comes with experience
If it's about confidence, then that does make sense.
>you could still improve
That's also true, but said improvement already requires confindence to pull off...
Okay, thanks for all the answers! I do feel like I understand this stuff a lot better now, and in a way it's making me consider if I might also be underestimating my own inability and "inherent incompatibility" with any woman because I assume true
love requires uncompromisability and perfection from the beginning since it's often claimed "love is sacrifice" or whatever, which I find bullshit considering half of all marriages end in divorce so it's not like love is a magic key to compatibility.
>Why do you think young girls get with old guys?
For as many reasons as there are young girls who get with old guys. Maybe there are certain reasons that are more prevalent, like money, but some do so out of love. And who cares what the reasons are, as long as they're both happy?
>it's because they're rich.
Not all old guys are rich, though... and if we got to eliminate class distinctions (as much as is realistically possible), there wouldn't be rich old guys anyway. Yet, I'd bet on my left testicle that some young girls would still want to be with older guys.
>lowering the age of consent down from 18
In most of the world the age of consent is lower than 18. Even in much of the US it is, assuming that's where you're from. It will be universally raised to 18 sooner or later, which I consider unfortunate because, get this, teens have sex. Both with each other and with people older than them. I don't think there should be laws against that, but obviously there should be laws against våldtäkt and such... which there already are.
That said, if a modern age of consent set in stone is necessary, I think it's one of the best it can be where I live. I wouldn't want it to be needlessly lowered, I just don't want it to be raised in some kind of show of "modernity".
>DO not confuse your justification for wanting to have sex with teenagers
I hate to suggest this, but could you perhaps be projecting? I never said I want to fuck teens myself, and I highly doubt I'd fall in love with one so I wouldn't want to fuck one either... unless I did fall in love with one, but again, that's not very likely for several reasons. Besides, I specifically said I generally find 20-year-olds the most attractive. Sure, they're nonetheless "too young" for me from society's perspective and legally there's zero difference between 16 and 20 where I'm from, but that isn't really the issue.
The issue is that laws are being needlessly tightened in the name of "modernisation", a concept based on exploitative capitalism engineered to increase class distinctions. It's not just sex laws, but those are the ones relevant to this discussion. People should be allowed to be with whom they want to be with, sexually and otherwise. It would reduce exploitativeness in relationships since they wouldn't have to be kept secret no matter what kind of relationships they are. Emphasise consent and cut all the unnecessary restrictions put there for "moral" or "modernist" reasons.
>inb4 ancap meme about 13-year-old anime catgirls consenting
There's nothing capitalistic about the freedom of people to form relationships based on volition. It drives me up the wall when some leftists argue that freedom of choice is an inherently right-wing concept. It's fucking not. It's only capitalistic in the context of markets where companies compete against each other for profit.
>the more afraid I am of being seen as a slut and undesirable to those virgins
That's unfortunate, but of course it's a problem in societal attitudes that should be fixed... there's so much in society that's fucked up and wrong, and while in some areas there's been so much significant progress recently, there's also shit going in exactly the wrong direction.
>giving them a positive first sexual experience and teaching them myself how to do some things right is really hot, and they're so fucking cute.
>I also like older men and chubby guys as well
I wish I could find a woman who thinks like this, fall in love together and live a happy life... but it's probably never going to be possible realistically, although some might argue that me now saying "probably" is an improvement at least to my mentality...
I can relate to a lot of that. I can't really offer any consolation, but I wanted to reply just to tell you that.