yeah I agree with what you're getting at, in the sense that. I like to objectify women as much as the next guy, but nonetheless, its not like a relationship with a women I'm not initially physically attracted to is out of the question. Looks is just the first thing you see, but even homely women have their way of being 'cute'. I don't know if its straight bias, but it seems like there's more diversity in female than male beauty. Both in looks and personality. I don't know man I think I just love women, like if all women were the homely kind and men were the trapmode fem looking 1% I'm talking about, I still think my first hope would be a woman. Damn I want an ugly gf now.
when I see a dude wearing makeup , and its not like a femboy or similar, my immediate negative reaction isn't effete and weak but more like, "why do you feel entitled to that". like its not enough to already be a man, you want to be pretty too. Comes off as either compensating for something, like ultierior motives, or narcissism of entitled and not earned kind. That's kind of tied up with the way that traditionally, men are valued for what they do, while women are valued for what they are. or what they appear to be. So a woman enhancing her appearances is within the rules. A guy doing it(first thought us stuff like elon musks hairplugs, or Jeff bezos being ripped at age 50) comes off as forced. Maybe this is a reach, but it reminds me of people that refuses to accept they were wrong about something(something else acceptable only when women do it). Just accept you went bald, and if it bothers you wear a hat, don't try to lie to us like we don't all know you're bald.
Not that I'm endorsing gender rules. IMO women should come over to the male side. The worst I heard was a (pseudo)feminist complaining that men aren't expected to wear makeup in their YouTube videos but women are, so more men should wear makeup. Like that's the worst thing that can happen(and if incel ideology were real, I would much rather die a man that never fuxed again, than become a 'looksmaxer'). Instead we should want women to *stop* wearing makeup. And not demonize them for it. I really do think women are still just as oppressed as they were in the 50s, as much as it might seem otherwise, just because they still have the same level of expectation to be beautiful. Let's live in a society where women are also valued for what they do.