Best step to it is to do it. Just start taking any and all steps you can, and then when a step feels wrong, go back on it.
Sign up for HRT. In America, it's easy, you can have the pills legally within the week. If you turn out to not like how it makes you feel or look, stop, and everything will reverse - there are some exceptions, and certainly a time limit to changing your mind without *any* side effects at all, but the doctor who gives you the HRT will explain them to you, and, like, a week won't do shit except change your mood, so no stress. Do it. Worst case scenario, you just get the pills in your hands then decide not to take em, y'know? No penalty for trying.
Subpoint: People who say you need to do some incredibly specific hormone regimen are taking shit way too seriously. What any non-quack in America offers is fine. All that matters is that your hormones are in the right range, so make sure your blood tests are regular if your doctor doesn't ensure that already, and make sure your hormones are being put in the right range, by whatever you're taking, be it spiro+e, cypro+e, monotherapy, what the fuck ever. Like, some of the drugs have side effects, but once you've cut your balls off (ASAP) you won't have to worry about any of that apart from the e. So it's not a particularly big deal at any point.
It's like people who say "blah blah use the atkin diet!!" but the true diet secret is just "eat less calories than you burn, obviously, ya fookin idiot".
Makeup is fun once you know it. Even a little will make a tremendous difference - like, just lipstick and literally nothing else, for example. Just like any aspect of being alive, once you interact with it long enough, you get an innate understanding of it. I didn't learn from a tutorial that concealer looks good on my laugh lines, I just... know my face, you know? And that takes ages, but that's life. Just, trust me, trying is the important thing.
At first you'll feel really uncomfortable with the makeup, probably. It'll feel like, inherently unpleasant to do. That's just the social programming, you'll break it down eventually. You'll also of course suck at it for the first, like, moooonths. Just a part of the process.
I know you said you think makeup and hair removal are stupid. They're not, like, a requirement, technically. But they're such an absolutely massive help, you have no idea.
Especially the hair removal. Tbph, you can't really successfully transition without it. Kind of an unpleasant truth. Some have surely managed it, especially, like, blonde people, of course. But shadow kills. So I don't wanna tell you how to live your life, but that's pretty darn important.
Real people. Your local LGBT community, ideally. The internet is a bad place for this right now, tbh. People are just generally crueller and less helpful on the internet. Ironically. Since I'm talking to you on the internet. Idk, if it has to be the internet, just... find somewhere that isn't a suicide cult, where people are all actually making positive changes in their lives and progressing toward not only transitioning but being better people. You know, instead of bemoaning how much it sucks to be trans and then doing nothing. The right discords will work. Whatever you do, as has already been stated, do anything you can to avoid 4chan, especially, as they're kinda suicide culty even on the non-lgbt parts.
Also, always remember that it's perfectly okay to be non-binary. You can transition to being 50/50 and then stay there, androgynous or femme-leaning or whatever you want. Don't live your life to be someone else's idea of acceptable, that only leads to feeling shitty. Can't waste your life feeling shitty. I'm not, like, an expert in this because I'm not non-binary, but it's a thing.
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